Category Archives: Life Experience

The three kinds of people who exist in this world .

In this world there exist three major kinds of people. LEADERS. Those who are ready and willing to take charge, build, inspire, and create no matter how hard it gets ..

” Remember to be a great leader you must first learn to follow ” 

Nelson Mandela


Those who support leaders and work to achieve mutually beneficial goals.These true followers are actually people who help anyone they admire and support grow to their ultimate best . 

Destroyers ,they are those who can’t find it within themselves to follow anyone, their hatred and insecurity is so pure that blinds them ,so much so that they can’t see strength in any other living creature .They completely lack the ability to inspire or create, so they do the only thing that comes naturally, they tear down all they come in contact with . Even when they succeed to create , they eventually succeed in absolutely destroying what they’ve created and are even proud of it . 

This is fearful to witness ..because it’s a blinding hate that that causes Dementia a gradual mental disability which eventually kills off a destroyer without them even acknowledging it . 

So which category do you fall into ? 

I have been used and dumped so many times .

Yes I have been single since 2007 and believe me the first four years was a horror , I wondered why I wasn’t good enough , i wondered why I loved so hard but yet it was never enough , I wondered why I considered myself last ,I was depressed ,then I said to myself maybe it was because I have sinned and come short of God’s glory by dating a married man, no then I thought maybe it was because I became depressed due to constant emotional battery ,been called fat ,ugly and unattractive then, I got into comfort eating and grew more fat, then I thought maybe I don’t deserve to be happy and everyone knew I was a shameless side chick ,yes I hated myself ..Friends even indirectly laughed at me . Some said if you loose weight you will find a man , some said there’s someone out there who wouldn’t care how I looked. Some called me large in a kind way of cause.. 

It took me four years I got my mojo back , yesss I finally lost all that weight , I look like a picture in a glossy magazine I still do but you know what ? Still nobody loved me , they pretend they care but use and dump me faster than they even lied . Men lied to me ,women lied .

The one I use to think was the love of my life hates me and everything associated with me. Yes that’s my life ! 

Been alone made me realize I have to first learn to love me and believe in me ,yes I finally did and the last few years I have been lonely but happier so

 ” Don’t let society fool you into believing that if you don’t have a girlfriend or boyfriend then you’re destined for a life of misery. The Dalai Lama has been single for the last 80 years and he is one of the happiest people on earth. Stop searching for happiness in places outside of yourself, and start finding it where it has always been: within you.” 

Miya Yamanouchi, 

You are not ugly and unlovable because you are single …you just feel like that because you and I are trying to be like the purported picture the world paints on the net instead of finding love within..

Make a change and see how different things would be .

Happiness is within you find it .

Why because self love is the ultimate peace bringer and the greatest gift you can give yourself ! 

The sun is shinning beauty is within you .

#singlewomen #lookingforlove #battered 

Maheeda @m9ja1 celebrates 13 years of marriage .

Wow congratulations to @m9ja1 , that’s what she calls herself on her instagram account . She is Nigerian and best known as a soft porn erotic star on IG and also has released some records . 

Gorgeous Maheeda just celebrated 13 years of marriage to her expartriate husband .This woman is fearless and doesn’t care what haters say which is why she is admired by many including me. She’s also been called many nasty names because of her trade . Well 13 years of marriage sure proves something . 

Here’s Maheeda’s post on IG .

What is Maheeda doing that keeps her marriage going strong ? Maybe it is time we should all ask ourselves what we are doing wrong and why our relationships are breaking down … 

Pastors are divorcing their wives but yet the one called a blacksheep has a happy and successful marriage .. 

Hell yes Pastor Chris Oyakhilome should have taken example from Maheeda even me ..

I congratulate you Maheeda . Happy anniversary to you and hubby ,may God bless your family . Keep doing what you are doing ..100 kudos to you ! Please I want your recipe ! 🙂 

People do not judge a book by its cover eh! 

Nobody is perfect ! 

The reality of life is that no one is perfect.

So when you meet a new person,for example a man or woman in your life , please give them three annoying treats that you can forgive , that doesn’t mean you are settling for less , it simply means you are grown ,matured and have experienced life . 

Mind you now , i am talking about people of a certain age group ,say over the ages of 40 , at this stage we have all settled into our ways .. if you are still single or probably divorced with kids or without ,you can’t change anyone at this point ,all you need to do is make a little compromise ,be careful not too much ..just enough to accommodate the other half in your life . You don’t want to remain alone forever do you? Something has to give a little . 

This article was inspired by #WendyWilliams 
#life #relationship #theresnosuchthingasperfection

You are a priority! Believe it! 

  • Never make someone a priority when you are only an option for them . 

The first priority is you ! Love what you have, how you look and from there if you find something you want to change then prioritize ! 

Have you forgotten that the only constant thing in life is change ? 

” You are beautiful , accept it ” 

” You are worth it ,believe it “

  • Remember with some people you spend just an evening and with some you invest it ‘
  • Be careful where you stop to ask for directions along the road of life. As they say ,wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.if you run with Wolves you will learn how to hurl ,but if you associate with eagles you will learn how to sow to great heights . Don’t be ashamed to cut out negative people from your life . It’s your life only you can care for it . 

” They say you can be a dreamer all you want but to achieve your dreams you must wake up everyday to pursue them because dreams don’t run after you , you have to run to catch your dreams ” EbonyO.

What’s stopping you????

Dream ! Believe in yourself ! Value yourself ! 

” Make yourself a priority “

Your thoughts are powerful! 

Just as Our thoughts can be our greatest downfall, so it can also be our biggest incentive .  Do not ever forget that . What we think is what we portray to people who see ,talk and associate wth us in our everyday life and place of work .

As long as you feel disgusted by your own self , the energy is emitted to the outside world around . Negative feelings are not acceptable if you want a good life. 

For example saying to yourself I am not beautiful , I am fat , will in the long run make you feel  worthless . 

So long as you stand in the mirror every morning and say to yourself , ” this is who I am ,this is what I got and I will love myself no matter what ,then the rest follows , no one can convince you or change how you feel exccept you ,first believe in yourself . Be positive so as to bring positive light and energy towards you. 

Life may sometimes be unpredictable and quite horrible ,but there are so many positive and encouraging occurrences around us . Let us allow these lights to come into our being and set us free . If you do not like something about yourself instead of complaining about it and staying in the same situation, get on out there and start working toward the change that you need and want ,it may not happen in one minute but you are stepping up your game .

Are you in a relationship that brings you down , wears you out ,it’s time to make a positive change .There’s no law that says you must remain in a broken relationship value who you are .Leave the negativity !

Don’t continue to  live with the unfortunate past negativity’s ,use it as an experience you have learned from ,everything I believe happens for a reason. The past whether good or bad prepares you for the future .  

You hate your job ? So why are you still wasting your time remaining in a job you don’t like and surrounding yourself with negativity .Start searching for a new job . A job that you are happy at is worth ten times more than a job that pays well which makes you cringe . Yes money is definitely a big factor but common will you sell your happiness and self worth for money ? 

It’s quite unfortunate that many people will answer yes to that question . Yes money is very important , gives you a comfortable life , we all want that but in the wrong place ,situation and time it could also be your downfall .

” Make the change that you want in the world first within you, you may not be able to change the world , but you can change you” 

The power of positivity and self worth can’t not be underestimated . It is what rules the direction in which our live takes. 

You are still alive ,think positive , believe in the goodness within , stop the minus , embrace the plus always.

#inspiration #thoughts 

Darkness can sometimes be a gift !101

 Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness ,it did take awhile but in the end, I understood that this too was a wonderful gift. No matter what you are going through , don’t give up . It could be a blessing in disguise after all said and done .I have been kicked in the gut many times ,the good thing is I did not give up. I realized that by giving up those who hurt you win . You can’t let that happen. I didn’t , I made changes .

Sometimes when life happens we think it’s the end but it’s not , are you going through divorce ? Are you in an abusive relationship? Did someone break your heart ,cheat on you or left you for no reason ? It’s not over yet , get up and face the music , it’s time to make a change , empower yourself and make changes.Take a step no matter how small it is .

Dream as much as you can ,so long as you know you have to get up everyday and work towards achieving those dreams . 

What’s a dream without action ? Nothing ! 
So you must wake up ! ❤️  

Chewbecca Mum uses her voice to claim a sad world singing ” heal the world “.

The most amazing thing happened , amid all the pain in the world ,Chewbecca mum Candace Payne surprises everyone with her golden voice on her Facebook page singing Michael Jacksons.  ” heal the world ”

According to her she’s been spreading joy to the world but because of all the shooting she’s found herself quiet in the last couple of days because she’s been so sad and hurt by what’s happening,So she decided to share with us a song she came across in her own version all over the world . Here’s Chewbecca mum sharing love to us all …making the world a better place. 


Vin Diesel post heart rendering picture showing Paul walker lives on!

Vin Diesel shares a moving heart rendering picture of him holding his little daughter high in the sky while Paul Walker his longtime friend and costar of the Fast&Furious series who died in a car crash in 2013 looks on down with a big smile . 
Late Paul Walker was photoshopped into the picture which made it look like an angel looking down from heaven protecting his love . Vin says it’s a way to keep him alive in his  family .Vin Diesel also revealed he named the latest addition to his family ,his 4th child Paulin after Paul Walker . 

This is such a moving tribute … Paul Walker lives on . Continue to rest in perfect peace! 

13 year old Ekemini gives birth to a baby boy ! 

 If you haven’t been following this story then this is your chance to . Ekemini is the pregnant 13 year old young teenager who was rescued just a few weeks ago by the very humble inspiring Anja Ringgren Loven Denis aid worker ,David and their team of angels after been left pregnant alone and uncared for by a pedophile .   

Anja announced via her Facebook page,she has given birth through C-section to a very health little boy,Ekemini is tired and not feeling too strong yet but will be ok according to her post . The birth had to be through surgery considering the fact that Ekemini is only just 13 ,at pubertal age ,which means her pelvic bones are not even fully developed. The evil that some men do!
Here’s the original birth announcement by Anja below.

” This morning at 10 Ekemini gave birth ( caesarean operation ) to a healty young little boy 👶🏿💚 . Ekemini is the girl, only 13 years old who David and our team rescued a few weeks ago and brought to safety to our orphanage ❤️ So please say Hello to the new member of our big family at DINNødhjælp/ACAEDF Childrens Home 👶🏿 He is just so sweet and adorable and I cannot wait to hold him in my arms ❤️ The operation went fine but Ekemini is a little sick and very tired. But she is with David and our team at the hospital now and they will all take good care of her and our little sweetheart 👶🏿💚🇳🇬 Love from Anja and David ❤️

Folks to help Anja ,David and their team continue their good work please click on the link below and donate ,no amount is too small . Help share the story of hope ,be an instrument to bring change to the life’s of these innocent and abandoned children .